There are, sadly, several situations in which a person may feel constantly rejected. An instance of this which has become almost iconic is getting picked for dodgeball in elementary--there is always someone picked last, and it is almost always the same kid. If this hypothetical kid is not always but often picked last, he may still feel self-conscious whenever he fnds himself lined up witht he other kids. This self-consciousness may effect his dodgeball abilities, making him an even poorer player. Now, he is picked last every time. If this kid is particularly emotional, he may be become frustrated to the point of projecting negetively outwards throughout the entire day, driving away any friends he has and making him feel even more rejected. Am I the only one who thinks this sounds irritatingly like one of those comercials that say, "Oh, if you don't switch to our company your life and all you hold dear will be destroyed and here is exactly how it will happen"?
This kid, yes has been rejected quite often, and he let it get to his head. He was rejected in gym class, and he let it bother him so much that it effected the other aspects of his life, which lead to more rejection. The kid, when he thinks about it, probably feels angry, confused, sad, and perhaps a little defiant, not quite understanding why he is faced with so much rejection.
The effect rejection has on a person is the effect that person lets it have. If this kid had not let gym class get to his head, then he probably would've been fine. But if a person allows one rejection to absorb them, then they will only be regected more. It is a vicious cycle, but alas, it is life.
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